How to make your online dating end up in marriage

Love is very sweet. Love is the greatest thing in the world, yet love is like a boiling water which must be handled with carefulness lest it splashes and leave an everlasting scar.


Almost everyone has that online girl or boy who is the reason of our online presence. Some of us don't have only one because we don't want the fatal heartbreaks that come with love (Except we are on casual relationship). Many even break up online without seeing at all. Yet this online love is two years old or more.


Here are the things to keep in mind when you want that your online damsel and that handsome dude to be your dream come true.


Expect less


Expect less. Don't think people's real life image would always mirror their online image. During a date, If the person is more gorgeous, beautiful or handsome, than expected, it's a bonus. Programme your mind to a minimal level. We always make the mistake of taking our imagination too far when we meet that Miss Beauty or Mr. handsome on Facebook, IG and other social platforms. I have met people who are finer than their dp. And likewise people that are nothing compared to what I see on the online photo album. That is called "camera injustice"

Phone camera is a weird gadget. Let us not mention the crazy filter apps churned up on Google play store. Video chat creates better justice to our real look more than snapshot.

Have you ever taken a selfie that looked more like who you wished you are rather than your true self even without applying filter. And "click" we save it and smile...Hmmmn. see me o. See beauty?...Oh see fine boy.

Camera or filter, especially, lies to us and we love the way it lies. Rihanna should make a remix of "I love the way you lie" for filters. It doesn't mean that Camera doesn't tell the truth. Of course, it does. Note that everyone is beautiful in their own way. The most valuable beauty is inside us. Our asset or intellect or moral value are examples of inner beauty.

So everyone posts their best look online, male and female alike.




True Identity


While online, we interview each other on several events that shape our lives to what is it today.

We chat from 8pm to 3am and even more. The realization of the flying time would shock us.

He would be like "Just now, 3am?"

And she would be equally surprised she has stayed that long online chatting you. That is chemistry. It is an unconscious thing. Two hearts merging to become one. But in all these interviews, or interaction, remember to be truthful in everything you say. Financial status, location, family etc. Sometimes we lie to save face. But be 95% honest if not 100%. Don't forget to mention your height, 5ft or 6? Because this is one of the illusions camera make.

This is common to the female folks. Most ladies are infatuated over height.

When you finally meet, she would be like "I thought he is even taller than this?" This may let the feeling dwindle right away. This is one of the features of high expectation.


With all these things at the back of your mind, there is a high chance that your intimacy would be strengthened and you can get married if that is your intention.



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